Posted: Tuesday May 20, 2014
We know that many people are often uncertain when it comes to wedding gift buying etiquette so we have answered some of the most common questions here.
If you have any further questions then do let us know and comment below.
Q: What are traditional wedding gifts?
A:It is traditional to buy the bride and groom something for their home together such as crockery, cutlery or glassware etc. This is when a wedding list or bridal registry is useful so that the couple don’t recieve duplicate items.
Q: Is it acceptable to buy a gift that’s not on the registry list and, if so, what should I choose instead?
A: It’s absolutely fine to veer away from a list if there isn’t anything on there that you would like to purchase. The bride and grooms registry items are merely suggestions, there is no obligation to get them something from the list.
A wedding gift registry is simply a guideline as to what the couple wants and/or needs and is there for those that do not know what to buy. If you already have a gift in mind, that isn’t on the list, it can be a good idea to check out the registry first to gauge the couple’s style. If you feel that they’d like the gift that you wish to purchase, then go ahead.
Q: Is cash better than a gift?
A: Not necessarily. Sometimes couples prefer money to put towards their honeymoon or may ask for foreign currency as a contribution to their spending money whilst they are away on their honeymoon.
Do whatever you feel comfortable with. If you do not know which gift to choose and want to give something that is a little more thoughtful than cash then you can always opt for a gift voucher at one of the couple’s favourite stores.
Q: When is a good time to give a gift to the bride and groom?
A: Many couples will have a table, suitcase or post box set up at the venue to place gifts and cards. However if you have chosen a large item to give as a gift, that you do not want to carry to the ceremony then it is completely acceptable to give the couple their gift when they get back from their honeymoon.
Q: Do I only buy a wedding gift if I am invited to the ceremony?
A: It is courteous to give a gift even if you are only invited to one part of the wedding. The value of that gift can obviously depend on your level of involvement in the ceremony and/or reception and also your relationship with the bride and/or groom, but a gift of some sort should be given.
Q: How much should I spend on a wedding gift?
A: Again the value of the wedding gift you give to the couple should depend on your relationship with the bride and/or groom. Depending on your financial circumstances £50 is about average for a wedding gift, however if you are a close relative or friend to either the bride or groom, or both, then £75 - £125 is usual.